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By Margot | July 14, 2014

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It was Sam’s fourteenth birthday yesterday. We drove home from New Mexico and saw the most beautiful morning sky on our way. We walked up to Kate Sessions Park with our new dog Brady (named after Tom Brady of course) after we got into San Diego last evening and then went out to dinner and had Salmon (he used to call it pink fish) and a chocolate cheesecake in his honor. It was the World Cup final and Sam would have gotten a big kick out of that being on his birthday. I’m sure he would have picked the winner way back in week one. He seemed to have a knack for that.

As we get further away from 9 years old and Sam as a little boy, I try not to drive myself crazy wondering what Sam would be like now. I met a girl going into 9th grade on our vacation and was talking with her about high school and I wondered if Sam were there would he be shy? Would he be chatting her up? Would he be nervous about high school or excited? What would he be interested in doing? Of course these are questions I will never know the answers to and so I counsel myself to try and focus on who he was and how much he gave to the world while he was here and not so much on who he would have been. I’m not always successful of course. Happy Birthday to our amazing little boy. Your brothers and your dad and I miss you so.


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7 Responses to “Fourteen”

  1. tom hutch Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 1:53 pm

    Margs and Redman. Andy and Charlie.

    Sammo lives on in all the hearts he touched.

    An amazing old soul who was the bravest most incredible young man.

    Your courage to continue this page and share your thoughts is stunning.

    Thank you for sharing Sammo with us to this day.


  2. tom hutch Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 1:56 pm

    MArgs and Redman. Andy and Charlie.

    Thank you for continuing to share your journey, Sam’s journey, with us.

    Sam was an old soul from the get go and his journey touched so many lives.

    I am so grateful for your courage.


  3. Meryl Says:
    July 15th, 2014 at 4:37 am

    Happy Birthday to your wonderful Sam!

    Andrew, Ian and I remember him fondly!

  4. Dorean Says:
    July 15th, 2014 at 5:18 am

    Happy Birthday, Sam!

  5. Uncle Matt & Roscoe Says:
    July 25th, 2014 at 7:01 pm


    Think of you every day, buddy. Love you.

    Uncle Matt & Rosc (aka “the most terrible dog in the world”)

    PS: When Brady met Rosc, Brady wanted to play with him incessantly. Rosc wanted none of it. Unless, of course, food was involved.

  6. Lisa Bonebrake Says:
    August 11th, 2014 at 4:27 pm

    The Bonebrakes all thought of Sam on his birthday. We think of him many many many days of the year – and always will. Sometimes we also catch ourselves thinking of what Sam would be like today, but then again, we’re pretty sure he’d just be more of himself – a joyful, smart, funny, athletic kid with a big heart, a kid no one forgets once they spent a little time. The World Cup Final on Sam’s birthday – very fitting. Very fitting indeed. Lotsa Love, Lisa, Kirt, Mack & Grant

  7. Heather Gregg Says:
    October 30th, 2014 at 12:38 pm

    Just thinking of you guys! Yesterday was 5 years since Lathan’s diagnosis and I reflected on a lot including all the sweet sweet children whose lives were cut too short! I remember you reaching out to us in the days right after and seeing the love your family had for each other knowing somehow no matter what happened, we were going to be ok…whatever ok was. You guys are so courageous and Sam was very special!!!